Choosing the right spouse in Islam isn’t just about finding someone you’re attracted to , it’s about choosing someone who will walk with you on the path to Jannah. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said we should prioritize faith and good character when choosing a life partner. But what does that look like in real life?

Here are 10 qualities to look for in a potential Muslim spouse:

Strong Faith (Deen)

They take their relationship with Allah seriously. It shows in their actions, not just words.

Good Character (Akhlaq)

They are kind, patient, respectful, and honest. Character shows up in how they treat others, especially when angry or upset.

Emotionally Mature

They know how to handle disagreements without shouting or shutting down. They’re open to growth and taking responsibility.

Trustworthy

You feel safe sharing your feelings, thoughts, and future with them. They do what they say and say what they mean.

Compatible Values

You share similar goals, beliefs about family, finances, lifestyle, and roles in marriage.

Respect for Family

They don’t have to be best friends with your family, but they should show respect and maturity in dealing with in-laws.

Modesty and Boundaries

They honor Islamic guidelines in how they speak, dress, and carry themselves. This shows self-respect and self-control.

Communicative

They listen, ask questions, and are willing to have uncomfortable but important conversations.

Emotionally Supportive

They want to see you succeed in deen and dunya. They support your dreams, not compete with them.

Sense of Responsibility

They take life seriously, whether it’s work, family, or faith. They’re not perfect, but they try.